Actually, they are still there, but deeply buried under the layers of peer pressure, society, technology, divorces, and life in general. Life is not perfect, however with teens (although they believe they are nearly adults) they are not mature enough to understand that divorce isn’t their fault, a parent losing a job isn’t their fault, a death is not their fault, being bullied isn’t their fault – and before you know it, they have baggage that would outweigh even adults.
Now you get online – where can I find help! I am at my wit’s end!!!!
You start to see all these websites, clearing houses, marketing arms, toll free numbers etc… Then just when you think you found a program that can help, you find some very harsh website of disgruntled parents and other kids that attended that program.
Don’t panic. Look at the sources -is it a reliable source? Is it a legal case? Or simply people that have too much time on their hands, have a vengeance after a school or program and can’t move on with life. Unless you see some legal cases to substantiate these claims – chances are very good that their sole motive is to prevent others from getting help and slam programs.
It is a fact – just about every school or program in our country (and probably others) have the “good, bad and ugly” about them. You are not in business for years and won’t have clients that are not happy with your services. This is why it is so critical parents do their research.
As a victim of this myself, I have won two jury trials – I have proved that my issues as being a disgruntled parent were justified in a court of law -and that these malicious websites are nothing but a way to deter parents from believing my story or getting my help. I always tell parents, I am either famous or infamous – depending on the website you find – but in reality – I have taken it to the justice system and proved that I was being stalked, harassed and worse because the program my daughter was abused at simply wants me gone.